Know When to Lay Low (Respect the Fall Back)

One of the hardest things to do in this generation, where we are always readily and easily accessible via mobile phones that are usually never more than an arms length away, is lay low. As interconnection has increased, our ability to separate ourselves from the interpersonal digital web has decreased drastically. You’d be hard pressed trying to find a young adult, teenager, middle-aged person, or even elderly without some type of social media account. It would be twice as difficult finding someone in these age groups without a web-connected mobile phone in general. Interconnectivity has brought us closer to others at the expense of distancing us from ourselves. The idea in this last statement is layered, manifesting in more ways than the obvious. Wondering about this increase in connectivity has caused me to question our current value of social, intimate, and interpersonal relationships.

This line borrowed from Snoop should be taken as a jewel in a time where doing the most to affect attention is the accepted norm. In efforts to harvest followers people have lost themselves, that is, whom they naturally are in the creation of social media personalities. Most followers are cultivated through hype and/or shock value. This has directly contributed to the the status quo of things, a never-ending contest to be more hype-worthy than the last or more intentionally shocking than the next. What’s often overlooked by those following the slippery steps up the social media ladder is that they become valued not for whom they are but by the hype/thirst/outrage they create, via an insatiable audience. Popularity in the realms of the internet is often gained when character flaws are put on display, or at the expense of general morality. Logan Paul already had a cult-following for his antics but he was able to reach worldwide levels of infamy by completely sacrificing basic moral judgement in exchange for views. Boonk’s antics may have helped him grow an international audience but at what cost to his character. Can he even separate the social media persona from the person irl (in real life)…

What’s more is the limited longevity of relevance. Notoriety created off baseless exploits grows stale, needing the next outrageous act to top it. People become parodies trying to repeatedly top themselves rather than knowing how to control their fame. It’s important to know how and when to fall back, lay low, and curate genuine interest — rather than saturate with acts that become played out.

The same can idea is naturally applied to basic relationships. Increased connectivity has lead to people doing the most when it comes to intimacy. I’m old enough to remember a time before you could hook up/carry a relationship through social media. Before a person could reach you practically anywhere via instant messages and texts. Sure there was less instant connection but, besides the obvious negatives, people tended to miss each other more. Sometimes I envy our parents generation, where you could go an entire day working while not hearing from your loved ones only to anxiously await everything you love about them when you reach home. There’s nothing to await when I already know your day, I’ve been texting you since morning through the afternoon and possibly even into night. What did I miss?, I’ve been with you every step of the way. There’s nothing to recap at night, and unless you two have the ability to endlessly talk about A-Z at the end of each day things will get old fast. It’s really an unwritten rule of relationships but allowing casual amounts of space to your partner builds anticipation and fosters interest. Nothing kills appreciation more than saturation.




I like to question what I come across and write about it. I train. I skate. I create.

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Zach Gall

Zach Gall

I like to question what I come across and write about it. I train. I skate. I create.

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